The Myth of a Balanced Life

The Myth of a Balanced Life

By definition, balance means “an even distribution of weight.”  I love all things fair and even. Balance sounds like a good way to approach life, but it’s an impossible target.  And when we pursue it, we inevitably end up feeling like we’re failing.  Guilty because we can’t keep everything “balanced” - family, work, marriage, activities, hobbies.  

How our family moved from auto-pilot to an intentional life

How our family moved from auto-pilot to an intentional life

Have you been there before?  The feeling of running from one thing to another (literally, mentally, or both)?  The feeling of living on auto-pilot or survival mode for just a little bit too long?  I've been there friend, but I truly believe we are not meant to stay there.

How I learned to wait

How I learned to wait

My children are one of the main ways God speaks to me these days - both through their tantrums and their pure and innocent hearts.  How many times have I fussed at God because he said "no" or "not yet," or in his kindness he protected me, but I viewed it as confining instead of a blessing?

I wonder how our relationship with the Father would change if we related to Him in the manner in which we're trying to teach our children to relate to us?  Acknowledging that He knows more than we do, coming to Him when we need help or when we messed up, accepting that when he asks us to wait that there is a loving purpose.

On respecting the seasons

On respecting the seasons

I am learning to respect the seasons.  Not in a despairing, mournful way, but with anticipation and expectation.  (I do not believe God ordains suffering, but he is certainly the redeemer and purpose-maker of it).  I am learning to greet the seasons with Holy Spirit-led vision and expectation.  Sometimes it's a season for big things and sometimes for small things.  A season for preparation and a season for reaping the benefits of years of faithfulness.

How I overcame perfectionism

How I overcame perfectionism

For years, I thought perfection was a prerequisite to progress. But, I've learned that perfectionism actually inhibits progress.  The pursuit of perfection was paralyzing.  It made me feel " stuck."

The pursuit of perfection leads to paralysis, but seeking progress leads to purpose.  Consciously decide to value your progress over perfection.  Focusing on excellence is healthy; pursuing perfection is not.